If your parents cared at all about manners, the words: “please and thank you.” are ingrained in you from a very young age. To get what you want, you say please, and when you get what you wanted, you say thank you. The frequency in which we say “thank you” I feel like it has caused it to lose some of the weight I think it deserves. Maybe it’s because it seems so easy on the surface. I mean we literally teach it to children. Maybe that’s why it seems overused.
So what happens when you say thank you for something you didn’t want? Does it change you? People say prayer doesn’t always change the person or the thing you’re praying for, but it changes YOU. That’s how I feel about thankfulness. The act of being thankful for what you have, whether or not it’s what you want CHANGES you. Changes your perspective. Changes your heart. Changes what we notice. The act of being thankful for something we didn’t ask for. Thankful no matter the circumstances I think takes away a lot of the privilege/entitlement we feel. I know I struggle with feeling entitled when it comes to everyday things I take for granted. Like the working car I drive to my job at a church, my health, my relationships, family, etc.
Is thankfulness an opportunity for our perspectives to be shifted?
Gratitude isn’t a synonym for rest, but I think they’re connected. For me, gratitude has a lot to do with peace. To find peace in the Lord, it’s necessary to practice thankfulness. I know the times I’ve experienced his supernatural peace are also the times that felt the most thankful for my situation; good or bad. I had to set down my pride and pick up His grace.
Several instances this past year I’ve felt the Lord calling me to something, and I would walk in that (somewhat unwillingly/uncomfortably.) It was hard to walk in faith and not know what I was going to receive. I would walk in reckless belief and then not receive what I thought I was going to receive. It was hard to put in all that “work” and then not get the tangible thing I wanted. But I received something so much greater. I received more of Him each time. He has strengthened my Faith, strengthened our relationship. I didn’t walk out of those situations with a tangible thing, because it was really all about the intangible. It may feel like all that work has been for nothing, but really it’s been for everything.
This selection of verses in Hebrews has been a constant comfort to me (scratch that, all of Hebrews 11):
“And all these, though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised, since God had provided something better for us, that apart from us they should not be made perfect.” Hebrews 11:39-40
I originally wrote this blog just as some notes for a discussion I was doing with my LifeGroup around Thanksgiving; I actually never intended on posting it but here I am 2.5 months later with new revelation from the Lord that He wants me to share. When I was preparing for that discussion I came across these passages in the Bible and man did the Lord open my eyes to what thankfulness looks like.
“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (The Message says: This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.”)
The way He wants us to live. So not only is thankfulness helpful to our relationship with the Lord, but thankfulness is a command. The word “command” makes it sound a bit dodgy but it absolutely gives it the weight, the value, it deserves. I think when God commands us to do something it’s because that’s He wants for us. But it’s a decision we have to make on our own. It may feel pretty crappy at the time, but He knows that the pain lasts but a moment in comparison to what He has for us.
“But giving thanks is a sacrifice that truly honors me. If you keep to my path, I will reveal to you the salvation of God.” Psalms 50:23
So. Thankfulness is an offering or sacrifice to the Lord. I mean I don’t know about you but thankfulness sure feels like a sacrifice when He’s asking me to be thankful for something I definitely didn’t want. Thankfulness is an act of worship to the Lord. It brings Him glory and honor, and what else could I want? It goes hand in hand with thankfulness being a command. He knows that when we’re thankful for what we don’t want, it changes our perspective. I think each time we thank God for a trial or “bad thing” in our lives, we get a little closer to His heart; to walking in the Lord’s mindset. Each time more of Him is added, and less of us. Isn’t that the point?
My prayer for you, for myself, for this world honestly, is that we would be more intentionally thankful no matter the circumstances. When we say thank you through tears; with a shaky voice, the Lord is there with us. He’s always there.
So, with my shaky voice I say: “I am thankful. I am thankful. I am thankful.”
– J